Tenderness is a classic topic in love songs.  It is also an important element in passionate relationships.  Security and safety, that foster passion, are developed when you can be vulnerable with your spouse and receive a gentle, compassionate and loving response.  Listed below are some ways you can exercise tenderness in your most significant relationship.

• When your spouse feels sad, touch them gently and express your support.

• If your partner has a major achievement at work or with the children, praise them and express your admiration.

• Should your partner wake up from a nightmare and express fear, put your arms around him/her, hold and console him/her.

• Listen to your partner when they share a concern and respond in a non-defensive, soft and sincere voice.

• On a cold night, fix some hot chocolate, and snuggle under a blanket with your spouse while drinking the cocoa.

• When your husband is watching a sporting game on television, fix his favorite snack and serve it to him.  Sit down with him and simply be with him.

• Draw your wife a hot bubble bath accompanied by candles and her favorite CD and drink.

• Massage lotion into each others hands without talking and look lovingly in his/her eyes as you do so.

• Challenge thoughts that provoke your anger and choose not to let anger into your relationship.  Honor your spouse!

• Kiss your partner several times with varied pressure and duration.

These are just a few ideas.  You might find it rewarding to create your own tender ideas with your spouse on your next extended drive.   Try a little tenderness and live your life passionately ever after.

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